Passions rekindled

Passions rekindled

Last year, I was given two gifts that delivered way beyond expectation and rekindled passions that have been missing from my life. My dear friend Charlotte thoughtfully gifted me a map and poem about travelling. This reconnected me with my passion for travelling and it now fills my wall with a world view. It also prompted me to dig out my old travel diary and reminisce with my kids about past escapades . This turned me into a storyteller as I shared tales of places I had visited,  people I met and some tricky situations that I survived along the way. Her gift helped me to keep past travel adventures in my mind and future voyages on my horison. It inspired me to hatch plans to visit some of the new places on my bucket list and to re-visit the places that I adore. The second gift was a pair of walking boots. Osteoarthritis in both knees resulted in me hanging up my running shoes. I missed the feeling of running hard and pushing myself in outdoors, that endorphin rush that follows and the headspace to leave all your worries behind. For some reason I had forgotten to apply my ‘adapt, improvise and overcome’ mindset to this challenge till, much to my surprise, I was presented with my walking boots. To say that these are now my most favourite possession would be an understatement. These shoes have taken me on numerous twilight and sunset walks since I acquired them. In one week alone they stomped over 65 miles. I have discovered a new hobby, enjoyed a more sustainable way...
Happiness

Happiness

It is my belief that there is never a wrong time to get curious about how to help blissful moments show up in your life more often. Why not focus your lens and become attracted to those things that make you smile more and create joy in your life? An exploration of happiness in the context of a coaching conversation with a client gave an interesting response. ‘Happiness sits on the periphery of your vision. It’s not tangible or easy to grasp and when you try to connect with it… puff it’s gone’. This defeatist and fear fuelled view, helped me to clarify my feelings on this subject. My feisty inner child rebelled…boldly choose happiness, grab it by the horns, look it in eyes and demand its presence every day. That very day I decided that I wanted to strike a deal with happiness. I promised to tap into a mindset and activities that would help me to nurture happy moments. On reflection, this collusion has helped happiness to show up for me, even in the face of worry, doubt, and fatigue. Since making this decision, happiness and I have began to collaborate; we co-created a plan and shook hands on it! If thinking about happiness feels intangible to you, I strongly advise you to take advice from my dear pal Ali Turner. Having been a free spirited adventurer, Ali gave birth to a daughter with complex challenging needs. From this moment her life changed and so did her perspective on happiness. Ali taught me that in the face of adversity, magic moments continue to be all around you...
Live your legacy

Live your legacy

You don’t have to be a billionaire or a genius to make a difference. People make their mark and are remembered for their contributions for all sorts of reasons. When a dear friend David Charlton died and I was asked to speak at his funeral, I considered this a privilege. It was also an opportunity to celebrate who he was and all that he had achieved. David or as he was called ‘Trooper’ had lived a full and fabulous life but it was cut short prematurely. He served his country, he impacted people’s lives. David Charlton was an adventurer, a confidant, a triathlete, a doting father, a loving husband, a mischief maker and so much more. What a legacy to leave behind! His mark on this earth was purposeful and intentional. He chose to become all these things, he took time to reflect on his contributions and he lived as well as left his legacy. It struck me that a legacy is usually a retrospective narration of a person’s life after they have gone. If this definition is accurate, perhaps it is possible to create a chosen legacy and then begin living it in the moment in order to create a life worth living. When discussing the best ways to make your mark, a wonderful person called Tim McNamara advised me to “CHARLIE” it. This acronym; Climb Higher And Reach Life’s Inner Expectations” brought a smile to my face and left me pondering how I might do such a thing. After some soul searching, I decided that for me, a ‘charlie it’ approach could involve several things: Choosing to...
Gifts that keep on giving

Gifts that keep on giving

It’s a given that generally speaking, people love receiving gifts. My favourite, are those gifts that keep on giving. It could be the gift of an experience that gives joy when opened and then creates memories, or an item that can be enjoyed more than once. Often, gifts can be passed on offering value to each new owner like a good book with well worn pages. Some people love giving gifts as much as they enjoy receiving them.  I happen to be one of those people. I love surprising people with treats and with experiences. Let me tell you about the gift I gave that kept on giving; the adventure voucher. The adventure voucher was a gift that I gave last Christmas. Struggling with inspiration and restricted purse strings, I was looking to give a meaningful and inexpensive present, and I stumbled upon this idea online. I simply created a certificate offering a whole year of adventure. Each month, I delivered an envelope describing the escapade that would unfold next. The event itself would involve no effort on the part of the recipient. This allowed me to create adventures of all sorts from a daring escapade to a simple micro adventure bringing joy to an ordinary day.  A train trip to a new location, a road trip, trying something new, a month dedicated to sleeping under the stars, a beach fire, a day of fishing in the North Sea and a bike trip to Holland were just some of the ideas that became a reality. The added bonus was that I got to participate in these adventures too. A...

Choose wise words

Our words have immense capacity for good if used wisely.  For a moment, I invite you to consider the power of your words. Given that I have taken the time to write my words about your words, you may wonder why this subject matters. It is my belief that your words, if used with intention, can enable you to create your own success, help you to express yourself, share a point of view or influence important decisions that affect your life. Do your words help you to attract the things that you want more of in your life or do they focus on your struggles and your pain points? Why not pay attention to the words that you use day to day. Notice if they are limiting you or helping you to generate ideas, opportunities and solutions. Use your words to attract the outcomes that you want and need in life and to help you communicate what you want to share with the world! With only a ‘tweak’ it is possible to frame your words in a way that generates curiosity and creates a mindset that will allow more possibility into your world.  For example, I’m struggling with this could become I’m working out how to manage this differently.  I never have enough … might instead be I am in the process of working out how to generate more ... Furthermore, what if your words could influence people around you too; You could change the course of someone’s day, give hope and motivate an individual to aim high. When was the last time that you encouraged another soul? How...

Cast off your shell and grow

It is my belief that when we learn to become comfortable with discomfort, its is possible to get more out of life. We can experience more, we can create space to grow and we can become a better version of our current selves. I was recently told a story about how lobsters grow. The story teller described how lobsters become restricted in their shells over time. In order to thrive they then cast off their shell and seek safety underneath a rock while the new shell forms. This analogy reminded me that times of stress are also signals for growth and can be used to understand how humans grow. Like lobsters if we can learn to become comfortable with discomfort and take risks, it is possible to get more out of life. We can create space to stretch,  grow into it and become a better version of our current selves. Yet at some point in life we have all opted out of something important on account of discomfort. I felt compelled to address the importance of learning to manage stress in order to allow growth. If we chose to view the adversity that comes our way when life gets tough from a place of opportunity, we then would see that what challenges us, changes us and we grow in this process. At some point in our lives we will experience the discomfort of wanting more but feeling uncomfortable about charging forward. We find ourselves making up excuses that keep us thinking the same thoughts, feeling the same feelings, doing the same old things. Ultimately getting what we always got from life. To...