Happiness

Happiness

It is my belief that there is never a wrong time to get curious about how to help blissful moments show up in your life more often. Why not focus your lens and become attracted to those things that make you smile more and create joy in your life? An exploration of happiness in the context of a coaching conversation with a client gave an interesting response. ‘Happiness sits on the periphery of your vision. It’s not tangible or easy to grasp and when you try to connect with it… puff it’s gone’. This defeatist and fear fuelled view, helped me to clarify my feelings on this subject. My feisty inner child rebelled…boldly choose happiness, grab it by the horns, look it in eyes and demand its presence every day. That very day I decided that I wanted to strike a deal with happiness. I promised to tap into a mindset and activities that would help me to nurture happy moments. On reflection, this collusion has helped happiness to show up for me, even in the face of worry, doubt, and fatigue. Since making this decision, happiness and I have began to collaborate; we co-created a plan and shook hands on it! If thinking about happiness feels intangible to you, I strongly advise you to take advice from my dear pal Ali Turner. Having been a free spirited adventurer, Ali gave birth to a daughter with complex challenging needs. From this moment her life changed and so did her perspective on happiness. Ali taught me that in the face of adversity, magic moments continue to be all around you...
Live your legacy

Live your legacy

You don’t have to be a billionaire or a genius to make a difference. People make their mark and are remembered for their contributions for all sorts of reasons. When a dear friend David Charlton died and I was asked to speak at his funeral, I considered this a privilege. It was also an opportunity to celebrate who he was and all that he had achieved. David or as he was called ‘Trooper’ had lived a full and fabulous life but it was cut short prematurely. He served his country, he impacted people’s lives. David Charlton was an adventurer, a confidant, a triathlete, a doting father, a loving husband, a mischief maker and so much more. What a legacy to leave behind! His mark on this earth was purposeful and intentional. He chose to become all these things, he took time to reflect on his contributions and he lived as well as left his legacy. It struck me that a legacy is usually a retrospective narration of a person’s life after they have gone. If this definition is accurate, perhaps it is possible to create a chosen legacy and then begin living it in the moment in order to create a life worth living. When discussing the best ways to make your mark, a wonderful person called Tim McNamara advised me to “CHARLIE” it. This acronym; Climb Higher And Reach Life’s Inner Expectations” brought a smile to my face and left me pondering how I might do such a thing. After some soul searching, I decided that for me, a ‘charlie it’ approach could involve several things: Choosing to...
Micro adventuring (Part 1 of 2)

Micro adventuring (Part 1 of 2)

The turn of the year tends to be the time when people evaluate where they are at and what they want from life. I call this ‘resetting the compass’. This can be a prelude to a new chapter, a new direction or a new adventure. How is this year working out for you? My guess is that your answer may depend on whether you were clear about what you wanted from your year and whether you created the plan to make great things happen. Advertisements all around us tell us to be adventurous, to live life to the full; messages that can lead us to feel that we should have big hairy audacious goals that involve visiting exotic places or jumping off cliffs . If that is what you want…. by all means go grab it! If this doesn’t feel possible or reflect your idea of fun, it is easy to write off the idea that adventure could be part of your life. For me the challenges of a busy life that includes parenthood, an NHS job and running a business have led me down the route of micro-adventuring. I can enjoy activities on a shoestring and go on small but fun escapades on a regular basis. I have come to learn that adventures, no matter how big or small are at my fingertips on a daily basis. In my Adventurous Polly video series you will see me up a hill, on the beach, biking, wild camping, building a fire with the kids, having hot chocolate by moonlight, exploring new spaces and other such things. Not rocket science but it gives me...
An adventurous new you (Part 4 of 4)

An adventurous new you (Part 4 of 4)

Staying focussed on getting what you want Whether you are a professional wanting to explore and pursue a new career adventure, a parent looking to have more family escapades, or someone looking to have a health adventure … you need a plan to turn that idea into your reality! Research suggests that people who succeed at implementing goals do so by breaking them down into smaller bite sized chunks and having some degree of accountability for whether they are on track with the plan. There are many ways to go about this and often when people get stuck, they hire coaches to assist them on this journey. That said it is also possible to become your own coach or use coaching tools and tips to help yourself along the way. A personal favourite of mine is simple … write a letter to yourself! Write a statement of intent. Include in this some facts about your potential to make this possible and why this goal is important to you. Get clear about what you are committed to doing, when and how, with advice or notes to self. Write a note on your calendar reminding yourself to open your letter at a specific point in time or give it to someone you trust to keep it safe who will deliver it back to you at an agreed point in time. Another effective method when it comes to goal acquisition is having a buddy. Find someone who you can share your future vision. Choose carefully! Ensure that it is someone who believes in you, and will be firm with you. They can...
An adventurous new you (Part 2 of 4)

An adventurous new you (Part 2 of 4)

What’s next? A Life coaching perspective Whatever you choose to go forward with this year, I invite you capture the wisdom, skill and knowledge that you have yielded from the year past and take it with you on the journey. My recent blog encouraged you to tease out how the last 365 days helped you to thrive, taught you life lessons and helped you to get clear about what to say goodbye to. My best hope is that you will use these facts as a foundation for a purposeful and proactive year ahead with clarity about your goals and your vision. Some people are excellent at clarifying ‘what’s next’, whilst others take a little longer to focus the vision in a more organic way. For me, unless I state my intentions, identify an action plan and set milestones along the way, then thing just don’t come to fruition. Sometimes my goals seem delusionally optimistic. Once I’ve said them out loud however, I get attracted to the outcomes that I want and behave in a way to make this possible and indeed likely. I find this to be the case in my experience as a life coach too. People come to me because they want more and despite their resourcefulness, they haven’t managed to get the outcomes they were looking for. Some people need help to fine tune the vision and get clear on what it will look like. Others who come my way might know what they want but are unsure how to get it to happen. Together, we clarify that vision, the obstacles that might present and identify...
An adventurous new you! (Part 1 of 4)

An adventurous new you! (Part 1 of 4)

Part 1 – Review the year from a clear view point As we round up the end of one year and enter a new one, I noticed many people on social media describing the year past as ‘the year they just wanted to get over with’ and I sensed a readiness for a new one. The truth is that each year brings ups and downs – Globally, economically, personally. There have been losses; we lost some amazing people this year, some tragedies financially, politically and so many incidents leading to lost lives. Amongst all that there have been some amazing things that have happened too. We owe it to ourselves to create a balanced perspective and give both the positives and negatives equal attention! There are always joyful moments, successes, things to be grateful for, moments of growth, magic moments and lessons learned to be found. From my own experience, and from talking to others who dealt with some sort of adversity this past year, I discovered that facing life’s challenges teaches you valuable pearls of wisdom. For some it’s finding out what really matters, the value of true friendships, or our potential to dig deep and find true inner strength. Appreciating the small things and acknowledging growth can create a great energy for life and impact what we allow ourselves to believe is possible. What did you learn, love, discover and enjoy? Did you appreciate the small but significant moments that took your breath away or made you feel happy? Perhaps you spent time with likeminded people and felt inspired, encouraged or connected! Did you experience moments of...