Passions rekindled

Passions rekindled

Last year, I was given two gifts that delivered way beyond expectation and rekindled passions that have been missing from my life. My dear friend Charlotte thoughtfully gifted me a map and poem about travelling. This reconnected me with my passion for travelling and it now fills my wall with a world view. It also prompted me to dig out my old travel diary and reminisce with my kids about past escapades . This turned me into a storyteller as I shared tales of places I had visited,  people I met and some tricky situations that I survived along the way. Her gift helped me to keep past travel adventures in my mind and future voyages on my horison. It inspired me to hatch plans to visit some of the new places on my bucket list and to re-visit the places that I adore. The second gift was a pair of walking boots. Osteoarthritis in both knees resulted in me hanging up my running shoes. I missed the feeling of running hard and pushing myself in outdoors, that endorphin rush that follows and the headspace to leave all your worries behind. For some reason I had forgotten to apply my ‘adapt, improvise and overcome’ mindset to this challenge till, much to my surprise, I was presented with my walking boots. To say that these are now my most favourite possession would be an understatement. These shoes have taken me on numerous twilight and sunset walks since I acquired them. In one week alone they stomped over 65 miles. I have discovered a new hobby, enjoyed a more sustainable way...
Find confidence within

Find confidence within

We often talk about confidence with an assumption that there is a shared definition. Yet confidence might look and feel different to each of us. I wonder what confidence means to you? By my definition, confidence can be demonstrated in your words, behaviours and your actions. It comes from having belief in your abilities and having inner strength to stand your ground. Together these attributes shape the successes that you can create through your own actions.  Inspired by sourceofinsights.com why not think about your confidence as ‘the juice to jazz your thinking being and doing in more powerful ways’. Through years of experience working as an occupational therapist and mental health coach, here are some of tried and tested confidence hacks that have helped others to find confidence within. Spring clear your thoughts: What you believe is what you become. Spring clean unhelpful thoughts and fill your mind with a world view that will help you to have more, be more and do more. Know what you stand for, get clear on your key values and stand by them. Recognise your capabilities and gifts and be proud of them. Do confidence to grow confidence: Embrace opportunities to achieve your goals (no matter how daunting) and trust that your capability and comfort will grow from this. Repeat till this becomes your new norm. Don’t wait to feel confident to do new things, do things to become confident. Behave like you would if you were confident and allow your actions to influence your feelings. Fake it to become it. Celebrate your success Celebrate your successes on a regular basis. Ask yourself ‘what...
Happiness

Happiness

It is my belief that there is never a wrong time to get curious about how to help blissful moments show up in your life more often. Why not focus your lens and become attracted to those things that make you smile more and create joy in your life? An exploration of happiness in the context of a coaching conversation with a client gave an interesting response. ‘Happiness sits on the periphery of your vision. It’s not tangible or easy to grasp and when you try to connect with it… puff it’s gone’. This defeatist and fear fuelled view, helped me to clarify my feelings on this subject. My feisty inner child rebelled…boldly choose happiness, grab it by the horns, look it in eyes and demand its presence every day. That very day I decided that I wanted to strike a deal with happiness. I promised to tap into a mindset and activities that would help me to nurture happy moments. On reflection, this collusion has helped happiness to show up for me, even in the face of worry, doubt, and fatigue. Since making this decision, happiness and I have began to collaborate; we co-created a plan and shook hands on it! If thinking about happiness feels intangible to you, I strongly advise you to take advice from my dear pal Ali Turner. Having been a free spirited adventurer, Ali gave birth to a daughter with complex challenging needs. From this moment her life changed and so did her perspective on happiness. Ali taught me that in the face of adversity, magic moments continue to be all around you...
Life lessons – On a bicycle

Life lessons – On a bicycle

Once a week I enjoy creating a weekly challenge for my clients. It hits their mail box on a Wednesday just before lunch…the hump of the hill of the week. It is aimed at inspiring and encouraging people to have more, be more and do more. Each challenges addresses a new topic and a recent one was called ‘follow your best advice’. It shared an assumption that we all have inner wisdom and the content encouraged people to listen to and take their own good advice. A few weeks later I went on a bike adventure that spanned three days, and covered 120 miles of off road biking in the rain. It is known as the Sandstone way. I decided to put this particular coaching challenge into practice and discovered that my light bulb moments from this epic journey were also transferable to my life in general. I felt compelled to share these lessons with you. The importance of being prepared: Having failed to make the time to organise my equipment in advance of the event, I discovered on the wettest weekend of the year that  my waterproof jacket zip was broken. This prompted me to reflect on the benefits of being prepared – a tough lesson to learn. Safety net planning: In advance of this event, given that it is notoriously difficult, I was worried that I might not be able to complete it.  Asking myself What is the worst thing that could happen here? Checking what was worrying me the most helped my mindset hugely. Once you work out what your worst fears are, you can create...
Live your legacy

Live your legacy

You don’t have to be a billionaire or a genius to make a difference. People make their mark and are remembered for their contributions for all sorts of reasons. When a dear friend David Charlton died and I was asked to speak at his funeral, I considered this a privilege. It was also an opportunity to celebrate who he was and all that he had achieved. David or as he was called ‘Trooper’ had lived a full and fabulous life but it was cut short prematurely. He served his country, he impacted people’s lives. David Charlton was an adventurer, a confidant, a triathlete, a doting father, a loving husband, a mischief maker and so much more. What a legacy to leave behind! His mark on this earth was purposeful and intentional. He chose to become all these things, he took time to reflect on his contributions and he lived as well as left his legacy. It struck me that a legacy is usually a retrospective narration of a person’s life after they have gone. If this definition is accurate, perhaps it is possible to create a chosen legacy and then begin living it in the moment in order to create a life worth living. When discussing the best ways to make your mark, a wonderful person called Tim McNamara advised me to “CHARLIE” it. This acronym; Climb Higher And Reach Life’s Inner Expectations” brought a smile to my face and left me pondering how I might do such a thing. After some soul searching, I decided that for me, a ‘charlie it’ approach could involve several things: Choosing to...