Dont let fear in the driving seat

Dont let fear in the driving seat

Coaching is a service that people often seek out when fear shows up and stops them from living life to the full. Recently I have given much thought to this. It is my belief that we all have a comfort zone and outwith this space, we feel discomfort. Sometimes this can extend to experiencing fear. Both as a mental fitness coach, and as a human being, I am familiar with both. It struck me that in the face of change, even positive change, fear is inevitable. It can become a barrier and a driver for anxiety and it can hold us back. It is important to clarify that fear is as normal as breathing. It is created from our primeval instinct to perceive threats around us and the desire to survive in the face of it.  Fear is generated from our thoughts and creates unhelpful emotions that can impact our actions. For each of us it will manifest in different ways such as fear of failing, fear of humiliation or fear of making the wrong decision. Believe it or not there is also such a thing as fear of success! In my coaching sessions where we address fear, I have heard people say What if I succeed, and then cannot handle it? This is a great example of how fear can inhibit us. How does fear hold you back? My research on this matter led me to a fabulous quote by Elizabeth Gilbert ‘your mafia mind is a bully’. This was a reminder to me that people who achieve greatness are usually people who ditch their fears. Marie Forleo talks openly...