What’s stopping you?
The turn of the year invited us all to start afresh. Here we are a month into our ‘happy new year’. It is a great time to stop and ask yourself…How is this new year working out for me? My guess is that your answer may depend on whether you got clear about what you wanted and whether you created the plan to make great things happen.
It seems that everywhere we look there are advertisements telling us to be adventurous, to live life to the full and other such clichés. These messages can lead us to feeling that we should have big hairy audacious goals; visiting exotic places, jumping off cliffs . If that is what you want…. Go grab it!
If this doesn’t feel possible or reflect your idea of fun, it is easy to write off the idea that adventure could be part of your life.
For me parenthood ,an NHS job and a life coaching business have led me down the route of micro-adventuring. I enjoy activities on a shoestring. I go on small but fun escapades on a regular basis. I have come to learn that adventures, no matter how big or small are at our fingertips on a daily basis.
In my Adventurous Polly video series you will see me up a hill or on the beach, biking, wild camping, making a fire with the kids, having hot chocolate under the moonlight, exploring new spaces and other such things.
Not rocket science but it gives me so much joy, allows me to meet people and creates time for family experiences and fun. It goes to show that adventure is always possible and can be found in the ordinary!
I decided this year that I wanted to have more fun, try new things and have a great energy about my life. The truth is, this is entirely possible for any of us so long as I am prepared to be proactive, practical and get clear on what exactly that will look like. I usually need to write down some ideas, tell other people, begin exploring possibilities, and make plans.
Often the things that can stop us doing more – the everyday practical challenges – can be resolved with some simple problem solving. At other times the obstacles can come from the internal blocks in our minds. They can show up as excuses such as “I don’t have time or I can’t afford it”. This usually means, I choose not to prioritise this right now. Sometimes it can also mean I need help to look at a creative way to make it possible.
Other internal blocks can include the limiting beliefs we carry with us, the rules we make up that just don’t serve us well or perhaps the inner critic which can dampen our belief in our entitlement or our potential to have more. They tell us that we will fail, or make a fool of ourselves. This can hold us back from trying new things.
I love coaching people to challenge these ‘gremlins’ so that they can have a more powerful message championing them to take the leap and get more out of their lifes’ adventure.
Paradoxically I once heard myself saying ‘I don’t have time for the biking weekend, I have too much work to do’. Given that my job is to coach people to find ways to lead a more adventurous life, the irony was not lost on me. Thankfully I gave myself permission to have a fantastic weekend away from work. Along the way I saw new places, challenge myself physically, met wonderful people and enjoy that sense of accomplishment that goes with following through with the plan. I also got some creative ideas to allow me to develop my coaching business.
What would a win look like for you? Maybe it would mean creating memorable time with family and friends, trying something new, something fun, something different. Perhaps you would like to challenge yourself or learn a new skill?
The notion of continual improvement works regardless of what you are interested in. The idea is to do more of what you want, if you want. In the words of squash Falconer one of my heroes, ‘Smile more today than yesterday. Do more press ups this week. Read more books this month. Start small, build bigger. Micro adventures becomes adventure’. Before you know it anything could be possible!
I will leave you with that big question – What will this years adventures look like for you?
#100% Pure Polly – Living Life’s Adventure…
I plan to dedicate my next blog to sharing some tips from my extensive coaching experience that will help you to get clear on ways to remain accountable for achieving your goals.
Look out for Part 2 – Micro adventures – Creating possibilities.
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