Happiness in 2018

Happiness in 2018

It is my belief that there is never a bad time to ask yourself ‘what does happiness mean to me and what will help me have more happy moments in my life?’ This curious question offers a chance to focus life’s lenses and then to become attracted to those things that make you smile, add more and create joy in your life. One response to the question of what does happiness mean to you, in a coaching session gave an interesting response. ‘Happiness sits on the periphery of your vision. It’s not tangible or easy to grasp and when you try to connect with it… puff it’s gone’. Whilst to me this view felt defeatist and fear fuelled, it helped me to clarify my feelings on this subject. The feisty character within me wanted to respond with…by boldly choosing to grab happiness by the horns, look it in eyes and demand its presence in my life every day. I was recently inspired by the author Elizabeth Gilbert. In her book Big Magic she describes ‘entering into a contract with creativity’. I decided that I wanted to create a relationship with happiness. I decided to give my full attention to discovering the mindset that I would need to adopt, the activities that I need to get involved in and the moments to cherish in order to nurture the presence of happiness. This has helped my happiness have the confidence to shine even in the face of worry, doubt, and fatigue. Since making this decision, happiness and I have began to collaborate, we co-created a plan and shook hands on it!...
Live your legacy

Live your legacy

You don’t have to be a billionaire or a genius to make a difference. People make their mark and are remembered for their contributions for all sorts of reasons. One year ago, a dear friend David Charlton died. He had lived a full and fabulous life but it was cut short prematurely . He served his country, he impacted people’s lives. David Charlton was an adventurer, a confidant, a triathlete, a doting father, a loving husband, a mischief maker and so much more. What a legacy to leave behind! His mark on this earth was purposeful and intentional. He chose to become all these things, he took time to reflect on his contributions and he lived as well as left his legacy.   When discussing legacies, and best ways to make your mark, a wonderful person called Tim McNamara advised me to “CHARLIE” it. He later elaborated and shared the meaning of this acronym; Climb Higher And Reach Life’s Inner Expectations”. This brought a smile to my face and left me pondering how I might do such a thing. After some coaching and soul searching, I decided that for me, Charlie it could involve several things: Choosing to let go of the illusion of perfection Deciding on my new mantra for living life – Go forward fearlessly with the confidence to thrive Giving myself permission to trust the process and let go of worrying about outcomes Realising that I needed to say YES to more and then work on feeling ready for it later This led me to imagine what difference it would make, if we all had a...

Micro adventuring -what’s stopping you? (Part 1 of 2)

The turn of the year invited us all to start afresh. Here we are a month into our ‘happy new year’. It is a great time to stop and ask yourself…How is this new year working out for me? My guess is that your answer may depend on whether you got clear about what you wanted and whether you created the plan to make great things happen. It seems that everywhere we look there are advertisements telling us to be adventurous, to live life to the full and other such clichés.  These messages can lead us to feeling that we should have big hairy audacious goals; visiting exotic places, jumping off cliffs . If that is what you want…. Go grab it! If this doesn’t feel possible or reflect your idea of fun, it is easy to write off the idea that adventure could be part of your life. For me, parenthood an NHS job as a therapist and a life coaching business have led me down the route of micro-adventuring. I enjoy activities on a shoestring. I go on small but fun escapades on a regular basis. I have come to learn that adventures, no matter how big or small are at our fingertips on a daily basis. In my Adventurous Polly video series you will see me up a hill or on the beach, biking, wild camping, making a fire with the kids, having hot chocolate under the moonlight, exploring new spaces and other such things. None of this is rocket science but it gives me so much joy, allows me to meet people and creates time for family experiences...
Staying focussed on getting what you want (Part 4 of 4)

Staying focussed on getting what you want (Part 4 of 4)

Whether you are a professional wanting to explore and pursue a new career adventure, a parent looking to have more escapades with family, a veteran wanting to maintain adventurous activities whilst transitioning to a civilian lifestyle or just wanting to have a health adventure while getting fitter… you need a plan and you need to know how to make that a reality! Research suggests that people who succeed at implementing goals do so by breaking them down into smaller bite sized chunks and having some degree of accountability for whether they are on track with the plan. There are many ways to go about this and often when people get stuck, they hire coaches to assist them on this journey. That said it is also possible to become your own coach or use tools and tips to help you along the way. A personal favourite of mine is simple, write a letter to yourself. Why not? Write a statement of intent. Include in this some facts about your capability and your values that connect you to why this goal is important and possible. Tell yourself what you are committed to doing, when and how, with advice or notes to self. Either write a note on the calendar reminding yourself to open it at a specific point in time or give it to someone who you trust to keep it safe and who will deliver it back to you at an agreed point in time. Another effective method when it comes to applying goal setting principles is having a buddy. Find someone who you can share your future vision. Choose...
What’s next? A Life coaching perspective (Part 2 of 4)

What’s next? A Life coaching perspective (Part 2 of 4)

  Whatever you choose to go forward with in the next year, I invite you capture the wisdom, skill and knowledge that you have yielded from the year past and take it with you on the journey. In my last blog I invited you to tease out what the last 365 days allowed you to be fantastic at, the lessons learned and get clear about what does not serve you well. My best hope is that you will use these facts as a foundation for a purposeful and proactive year with clarity about your goals and your vision. Whilst some are excellent at clarifying ‘what’s next’, others take a little longer to focus and clarify goals in a more organic way. For me, unless I state my intentions, identify the activities that will get me to that outcome and set milestones along the way, then thing just don’t come to fruition. Sometimes my goals might seem optimistic to the point of delusional, but once I’ve said them out loud, I get attracted to the outcomes that I want and behave in a way to make this possible and indeed likely. I find this to be the case in my experience as a life coach. People come to me because they want more and despite their resourcefulness, they haven’t managed to get the outcomes they were looking for. Some people need help to fine tune the vision and get clear on what it will look like. Others know what they want but are unsure how to get it to happen or perhaps their previous efforts haven’t succeeded. Together, we discover...
Out with the old and in with an adventurous new you! (Part 1 of 4)

Out with the old and in with an adventurous new you! (Part 1 of 4)

Part 1 – Reviewing the Year from a clear viewpoint As we round up the end of one year and enter a new one, I notice many people on social media describing 2016 as the year they just wanted to get over with and the sense of being ready to bring on 2017. The truth is that 2016 has been a year of ups and downs. Globally, economically, personally. There have been losses; we lost some amazing people this year, some tragedies financially, politically and so many incidents leading to lost lives. Amongst all that there have been some amazing things that have happened too. We owe it to ourselves to capture the positives and give them our full attention! There will have been some joyful moments, successes, things to be grateful for, moments of growth, magic moments and lessons learned. From my own experience, and from talking to others who dealt with some sort of adversity this past year, I discovered that facing life’s challenges teaches you valuable pearls of wisdom. For some it’s finding out what really matters, the value of true friendships, or of our potential to dig deep and find true inner strength. Recapping on the year, the good and the not so good, can be a valuable way to round up the year. Appreciating the small things and acknowledging growth can create a great energy for life and impact what we allow ourselves to believe is possible. What did you learn, love, discover and enjoy? Was it that you appreciated the small but significant moments that took your breath away or made you feel...