Gifts that keep on giving

Gifts that keep on giving

It’s a given that people love receiving gifts. Some people get as much pleasure from giving. My favourite, are those gifts that keep on giving. It could be the gift of an experience that gives joy when opened and then creates memories. Perhaps an item that can be enjoyed more than once. Certain gifts when passed on, offer value to each new owner like a good book with well worn pages. Some gifts just have that capacity to give pleasure more than once and I have numerous examples of these. Alas for now I will share only one; the adventure voucher. The adventure voucher was a gift that I gave this Christmas. Struggling with inspiration for a meaningful and inexpensive present, I stumbled upon this idea online. Put simply I delivered a certificate offering a whole year of adventure, for my partner in crime Rob to enjoy for 365 days. This involved an adventure envelope being delivered on the first day of each month for a whole year. The contents describe the escapade that will unfold at some point over that month with no effort on the part of the recipient. So far, the adventures enjoyed have involved things like  a train trip to a new location, a month dedicated to sleeping under the stars, a beach fire, a day of fishing in the North Sea, a bike trip to Holland and a few more surprises yet to come. This gift is continuous. The added bonus, I get to participate in these adventures too, win-win! Giving this gift has been so much fun that I am considering extending it...
Choose wise words

Choose wise words

Our words have immense capacity for good if used wisely.  For a moment, I invite you to consider the power of your words. You may wonder why this subject matters such that I have taken the time to write my words about your words. It is my belief that your words if used well could enable you to create your own success, help you to express yourself, share a point of view or influence important decisions that affect your life. Do your words help you to attract the things that you want more of in your life or do they pay attention to your struggles and your pain points? I invite you all to pay more attention to the words that you use day to day. Notice if they are limiting you or helping you be a solution focussed individual. Use your words to attract the outcomes that you want and need in life and to help you communicate what you want to share with the world! With only a little ‘tweak’ it is possible to frame your sentences in a way that generates curiosity and creates a mindset that allows more possibility into your world.  For example, I’m struggling could become I am in the process of working out how to manage this differently.  I never have enough to money might instead be I am working out how to generate more money. Furthermore, what if your words could change the course of someone’s day, give hope and motivate others to create a life that they love or even to aim high. When was the last time that you...
Passions rekindled

Passions rekindled

This year, I was given two gifts that delivered way beyond their point of receipt and rekindled passions that have been missing from my life. This year my dear friend Charlotte gifted me a map and poem about travelling. It reconnected me with my passion for travel. The map fills my wall with a world view. It also prompted me to find my old travel diary and reminisce, that then turned me into a storyteller. Her gift helped me to keep past travel adventures in my heart and future voyages in my vision. It inspired me to hatch plans to visit some of the new places on my bucket list and to re-visit the places that I adore. The second gift was a pair of walking boots.  18 months ago having learned that I have osteoarthritis of both knees, I gave up running.  As well as missing the act of running, I also stopped enjoying other elements of this activity; being outdoors and that invaluable headspace that comes with blasting along leaving all your worries behind you. For some reason I had forgotten to apply my ‘adapt and overcome’ mindset to this challenge till, much to my surprise, I was presented with my walking boots. To say that these are now my most favourite possession would be an understatement. These shoes have taken me on numerous twilight and sunset walks since I acquired them. In one week alone they stomped over 65 miles. I have discovered a new hobby, enjoyed a more sustainable way to exercise, and maintained my sanity and equilibrium. I have also enjoyed wildlife watching including foxes, otter,...
Relationships that thrive

Relationships that thrive

  The quote ‘no man is an island’ infers that we all thrive through our connections with others. Where possible we want to create and choose relationships that bring out the best in us and add value to our lives. That said, sometimes the relationships in our lives require kit gloves, and toleration and management to sustain them because they serve a vital purpose. I feel confident that we can all think of examples of this sort of relationship. Counterbalancing this are those wonderful relationships that we feel motivated to nurture because they bring out the best in us and add to the rich tapestry of our lives. The challenges of managing and improving relationships often present in coaching conversations with my clients. What each of us value and need from our relationships will differ greatly. My curiosity about this matter led me to carry out a survey. I learned from people from all walks of life about the qualities they would desire in an ideal relationships. It elicited a wide range of responses including; ‘someone whose company creates excitement, minds meeting, a good listener, similar values and interests, someone who restores my inner calm, hatching plans together, honesty, someone who just gets me, an adventure buddy, people who help me not take life too seriously’. Some of these descriptions struck a chord with me. It reminded me of the importance of taking the time to ask yourselves what qualities your relationships need to increase in strength and continue to grow. As a life coach, were we addressing the subject of your relationships, here are some themes that we might discuss: The importance of getting clear on the qualities that...